Venue Rules

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• The Host/DMs have ultimate authority over any activity at the event. If one of them asks you to stop, stop. If you are told to leave, leave. Do not engage in “DM shopping” to try to get another DM to side with you. At the end of the day we all talk to each other and we trust each other to make the right calls in these situations.

• No illegal substances of any kind are allowed on the premises. If you appear to be under the influence of illegal substances you may be asked to leave, especially if there is concern about your ability to provide valid consent.

• Alcohol is not allowed to be consumed at the event. The host can't control what you do before the event but if you show up so messed up that you're a safety hazard, you will be asked to leave.

• Vanilla appropriate / Street Legal attire is required whenever you are outside the building, out of respect for the neighbors and the host.

• The event location is private information. If someone asks you for the venue location, tell them to message the host directly. If they didn't receive a direct message from the host with the event details there is usually a reason for that.

• Please respect the host. Do not go rummaging around in the drawers/cabinets or open any closed doors. Treat the space with respect and clean up trash and messes as you go about your night. Let’s be adults.

• Snacks will be provided. If you choose to bring any additional food or beverages, please take them home with you if they are not consumed at the event.

• Please do not use the kitchen unless you have communicated with the host beforehand about a special event. There is a small fridge downstairs that you may use for chilling beverages, but please keep it to 1-2 items per person so there is enough room for everyone. I do not have sauce.

• Prostitution, solicitation, and negotiation of compensation for sexual services ARE ILLEGAL and are not tolerated. Violations shall result in immediate removal and banning from future events. Scene professionals may not accept payment for any services rendered.

• Normal scene etiquette is required (i.e., Do not interfere with a scene, do not invade scene space, etc). Please keep conversation, laughter, and comments to a minimum in the play areas. Do not monopolize the equipment. Do NOT join a scene unless specifically asked to do so!

• Do not touch anything that does not belong to you, without consent. This includes people and objects. If you are curious about an item someone has, ask them about it, most people are happy to answer questions about their toys or gear.

• Displayed items that are not in the community toy box are the property of the host. If you would like to use an item that is on display you may ask the host if they are not currently engaged in DM-ing, a scene, or other important tasks. The host will accompany you to the location of the item to discuss. DO NOT grab the item and take it to the host. Some of the items are sentimental and some are dangerous. The host’s answer is final.

• Attendance at this event does not indicate or imply consent to engage in any contact or activity with any other person. Prior consent must be obtained from other persons before engaging in any contact or activity with them. Consent once given may be revoked at any time, at which time all contact or activity must immediately stop. Any consent incidents should be brought to the attention of a DM.

• Please clean up after your scene. Leave all equipment free of sweat, blood, other bodily fluids, wax, toys, etc. Wax, fire, and scenes involving bodily fluids need to be performed in the area set aside for those purposes. Bodily fluids may include perspiration, blood, vaginal secretions, semen, urine, and other substances. Safer sex precautions are encouraged, and all bodily fluids must be cleaned up upon completion of the scene. When in doubt, please ask the host or the DM on duty

• Photography is a risky activity like many BDSM activities which may be conducted between consenting adults. Audio and video recording is prohibited during the event in public and private areas. Still photography is allowed with DM authorization & supervision. All photographs taken on the premises must be consented to by everyone in the photo.

• No photographs may be taken which include the event location’s signage, exterior architecture, or distinct interior architecture, decor, displayed gear, etc. The S&M furniture is not considered décor and photos may be taken including those items.

• Sketching, writing, or other methods of recording the event in any distributable form are also not allowed. In order to have a space to play we all need to respect each others’ privacy.

• There is no smoking in the venue. Smoking on the front porch is acceptable but please keep the topic of conversation vanilla and volume low out of respect for the neighbors.

• Penetration is acceptable, safer sex practices are your choice. There will be condoms available. Your attendance at this party does not entitle you to sex, respect the boundaries of others.

• All attendees have the right to have their chosen gender identity and sexuality recognized. Attendees have the right to use and be known by the pronouns and other words of identity that they choose. If unsure of a person’s preferred pronouns, politely ask them what they like to use. Intentional misgendering is unacceptable.

• Honest, open, respectful negotiation is welcome. Nonconsensual play is not.

• You are expected to know that the other people there might ask you to play. There is a wide variety of play that is possible. In other words, please read and be familiar with our rules. The person who asks is expected to be polite, and to respect the collar of anyone who is collared, or to respect the relationships of other couples or leather families. If you want to play with the person who asks, you are welcome to say, "Yes." If you do not want to play with the other person, you are expected to say, "No." If you do not want to play with the other person, but say, "Yes," or do not safe word (if that is what is necessary to prevent unwanted play), then you have violated their trust. We have no mind readers. If you ask someone to play, and they say, "No," you are expected to respect their wishes, and to let the matter drop.

• The DM will have unrestricted access to all areas of play space.

• Certain activities require DM supervision. If your scene involves any of the following components you are required to notify a DM so that they can stand by in case of emergency:
• • Rope Suspension
  • Bloodplay
  • Needles/Cutting
  • Breathplay
  • Fireplay
  • Stress Position Bondage
  • Water
  • Vacuum Bondage

• Please wear appropriate clothing and footwear.

• Respect the dynamics of others. If someone is obviously collared or in service to someone else it’s best not to approach them directly and ask them to play. Read the social cues.

• If you are a convicted sex offender, you are not welcome or allowed at our events.

• Racism, sexism, transphobia, xenophobia, and generalized disrespect will not be tolerated.

• If the host has to ask you to leave for any reason you will likely not be invited to return.

• The location or the event, the activities that take place, and the people who attend are all private information which should not be shared with anyone who did not attend the event. If you want to talk about a scene with others after the fact, make sure you have the consent of all participants to discuss it

• You are responsible for providing your own transportation to and from the event. This is especially important in the winter! The event host is unable to provide rides or lodging overnight. If you are taking an uber or getting a ride from someone who is not attending the event please respect the privacy of the location by getting dropped off at a nearby public business (there are several within 1 block of the venue) and walking the rest of the way.

Disclaimer:
Neither the management, owners, or operators of the event space, nor any agents, successors or assigns of any of the foregoing shall be held liable to any attendee, or any agents, successors or assigns of that attendee, for injury to person or property incurred as a result of attendance at this event. Participants by their attendance assume all risks of such attendance.